ok, I am feeling cheeky this morning, a certain fellow blogger has once again got tongues wagging, I try so hard to not reply, I will admit reading that blog is like watching a train wreck in very slow motion to me.. its been happening for years.
important: this is not talking about ANYONE who is on my regular reader or comment lists, to the best of my knowledge this blogger has never been to or read or commented on my blog
However I did get asked a honest question privately by a new homesteader on what is the norm, and how did it work for me and mine.
First answer would be.. what is normal, just like with all things in life what is normal for one is not normal or another, living your life the way you want with certain rules if you look after livestock and land is totally up to you..
And that is just the way it should be 🙂
However, in the much more detailed question of.. does it take a community to keep a homestead..
The answer in basic from to me is No
No in the sense its being asked about.. We had a big snow and storm, we have had weather related issues, we fixed them and that was that, we buy our hay and our feed locally, the hay is from down the road some by Farmer R and the grains and straw are from Farmer J, both are amazing gentleman, I pay them for their wears and I do it with a smile and true warmth in my heart.. I like and respect them, I want to see my money go to them.
I would say I have a friendship with them both, but its a farmer friendship, we visit as we have time for maybe 30 to 60 min once a month or so
I have known Farmer R for 11 years this spring, we have had a farm to farm friendship from the first spring I moved here, we have visited in driveways, him stopped in tractor, me stopped on horseback.. we have never had a single coffee or meal together.
twice in ten years I have called and asked for help in snow removal, once I hired him to come clean the barn and once to spread gravel, that’s it..
Miss T is one of my best friends and we have known each other for coming on 11 years, we do help each other a touch more on bigger projects, I think she has asked for our help four times and we have asked for hers twice, some time later this year she will help us put the new roof on my new part of the house. She has the skills and we will be working side by side, the grunts and learning as we go
As we are closer, we do share coffee and meals together.
Do I believe that if I placed a phone call that Farmer R, or J or Miss T would come help me, yes I do.. the odds of me placing that call.. almost nil!
As I write this its not because I do not like them, I do, I trust them, they are highly valued in my life but if I called out for help on things myself, hubby or hubby-myself combo can do, then I am not being true to myself
I am not allowing myself to be all I can be, I am not allowing myself to make the mistakes, learn the lessons, grow in knowledge.
The Ability to learn, grow, change, flex and challenge yourself, is what makes me feel alive, grateful, proud and humble all at the same time.
I am Always honored when someone offers help.. Thank you.. but I would not be me.. if I did not first give my all to make it happen first..
And as I am as stubborn as they come, I tend to find a way 🙂
I know when to ask for help and I will pay a fair wage or trade for that help, otherwise we will getter done. every single new day is its own journey, I am so blessed to be on mine!