I’m tired and that means my spelling and grammer gets even worse then normal, so here is hoping that this post is not going to have gibberish 🙂

Ever heard of the high low game, I first saw it in the movie called the “Story of us”, they did as a family around the dinner table, and when I meet DH and we started date/living together (there really was no inbetween on that one, we meet online and after writing and talking for so many weeks etc, we decided I would fly up and we would take a trip back down together an by the end of the holiday, we would either be together or not)

So you always have to say your lows first, so that you always finish on a postive high note, we tend to do them just before we got to sleep, a way to round out the day, that moment of quiet that comes after you are finally in bed and the house and work and life can just fade away, giving you time to reflect on your day.. I made it a personal rule that you always have to have as many or more highs then lows listed, three lows, at least three good things..

Now over the years what high-low has shown me within the relationship with my husband is that we can spend the whole day together, sometimes in the same vehicle, or working side by side on projects or even on holidays and at least 80 percent of the time, within those typically two to five remarks, something will have been big to one and missed by the other.. Its a very important way to find out what matters to your loved ones, its a way to learn and stop trouble before it becomes a real issue.. Like noticing that someone say things in the low area repeatedly, or has trouble finding highs.. its a good time to plan a special trip off the farm or make a favorite meal or do a bit more of their chores and give them relaxing time or sometimes book in some good old fashioned hard labour, with my man, often just getting a few extra chores done and giving him time to “walk about” his farm, for an hour or more looking at his plants/trees/critters will just melt that office stress away.. for me because the farm is my never ending job, getting off for even a few hours can make a big difference to my mood at times..

All of the above for your relationships are great reason’s to bring this idea into your life but I have also done it with other peaple over the year while I am traveling or folks are visiting or I am staying with friends and there is one more thing about this that I think is what takes this from a game into a what can be a life changing moment in your day..

You need to stop, think, and share out loud both your lows and your highs, that means that you have to find a way to form what is bothering you and by speaking it, you are letting it go even if its only in that first small way of just allowing it to be.. You that step of admitting it, well its basicly like that.. you have to say what that low is and just by saying it, you can begin to either start forgiving, start forgetting or start figuring out how to work your way around, under, over or though it!

However its that ending on a high note before going to sleep that I believe to be the most important thing, because really its a form of pray, of gratiute given, of respect for your life, its being able to say that the good things today was, a) Going horseback Riding, b) hearing the singing of birds all day c)seeing your first firefly of the year

Now those don’t seem like much, but lets break that down a little, Riding-outdoor-friends-nature-having to be settled in who you are, so that your horse can feel settled with you on its back, If you have ever ridden, you know that you can’t help but feel in awe of the world around you and the animal you are on.. The birds singing, their joy at life, singing lifts the mind and spirit in such a delightful way, it reminds you that now is the time of renewal and growth, and the firefly.. its takes me back to my childhood, but also grounds me to this land, to this farm, to this life in its own way.. we moved here in the spring, and I remember feeling that it was all so new and strange and I missed my family and my life up north and there was no garden, no farm critters, just the purr-pots and the hounds that had moved with us just a couple tree’s and grass and more bugs, o god the blood suckers that spring drove us from building to building, but one night DH called me out and said you have to come.. LOOK! and the whole yard was filled with firefly, something from our past in alberta, missing in the north and here on this bit of land we call our own.. and we stood there in each others arms and just watched.. it was one of those first steps into finding our way here..